Siding With The Abuser

It s a paradoxical behavior that can only be explained as a defense mechanism which involves the victim of aggression or harm acting like the aggressor.

Siding with the abuser.

Psychologically the abuse means that you had no control power or choice in what was done to you. The trump administration on thursday accused the us s european allies of siding with the ayatollahs the us wants to reimpose sanctions on iran that were removed under the 2015 nuclear deal. Not only do they worry about sending their children off to spend unsupervised time with spiteful exes many even find their children turning against them and siding with their abusers. Unlike in natural disasters or in war in sexual abuse the trauma is caused by another person who is most often known and trusted by the child creating the experience of betrayal trauma.

Rns i ve never seen credible evidence that abuse is unusually common in mormon families but i ve definitely seen that our bishops aren t trained to deal with it as the rob porter case shows. The stockholm syndrome reaction in hostage and or abuse situations is so well recognized at this time that police hostage negotiators no longer view it as unusual. It defies all logic that the kids would choose to side with fathers who have caused such harm to their mothers but it happens far too often. The phrase identification with the aggressor was coined by sandor ferenczi and picked up by anna freud two psychoanalysts with slightly different points of view.